Fine. I apologize for the crap of an entry I posted. It really was a bad one, and my heart wasn't really in it. I just wanted to try to get an entry up every week. The previous entry was more of a proclamation of love for Grey's Anatomy then an actual entry, which should've been posted in my livejournal. So I apologize. haha.
Anyway, this next subject touches a little close to my heart. Personally, I am not a lovey-dovey kind of girl. I don't believe in that wishy washy romance. As much as I enjoy watching it in K-Dramas, the fact of the matter is that it doesn't exist in the real world. Being a teenager, I find it impossible for someone to find someone they love at such a young age. You like them? WOW! Good for you. But love them? Now you're just pushing it. I might believe it, if you.. dated for a long time, and then decided to get together. Or if you were friends for a long time, and decided to give it a go. Then I might even believe that you two crazy lovebirds were meant to be together. But I have seen way too many proclamations of love and way too many breakups to actually believe that teenagers are capable of love. The only thing that most teenagers are capable of is lust. That's the end of it.
In the past, I have had a friend choose a guy over me and other friends. I "understood". It's all I could do. But ever since then, I learned. If I have a friend that does that, that person will no longer be my friend. It's my own personal belief. If you are my friend, more than likely, I will trust you more than no other. I will be there for you as much as I can. Friendships are one of the top things that I think are important in my life, next to family. And if you do anything to violate this trust, such as let a guy get in between us, then fuck this shit. I'm sorry. That's the end of it. I won't hate you. I won't stop talking to you. But I will distance myself emotionally as far away from you as I possibly can. I think I can be a reasonable person. Sometimes. I try to think out. I try to emphasize and think on how the other person feels. And I have way too many times. When it comes to love, I can understand the first couple of months of giddiness, happiness, and just pure bliss. But it's after those couple of months that I notice where all the trouble begins. And if you're able to stick through that, then I can totally see where your proclamation of love comes from. But if you're barely able to stick through it for two months? three months? Then do not joke with me about this bullshit.
Alright, so here's my question for you guys:
"What do you guys think about love?"
I believe that you are able to love more than one person.. but I also thinks it takes time. I believe that you like a person, but in order for like to become love, it just has to take time. I get annoyed finding people proclaiming their love to each other, because seriously? I mean, seriously? You barely known each other for a month and you're going to proclaim your love to each other. No. Don't give me that bullshit. It's that stupid pure bliss feeling talking, and I am not that kind to believe that. Wait till the pure bliss feeling is over. Then I will believe you. Then I will take into account that you guys actually do like each other. The word love is just thrown out there way too much and it pisses me off.
A word that's suppose to be special is being way too abused. Abused by the young immature teenage mind. Abused by men who just wants to get into women's pants. It's just not special anymore and it makes me sad. Ever since freshmen year of high school, I have become a pessmistic about love. The idea of love. Those little proclamations I see in people's profile on AIM, pisses the hell outta me sometimes, because the next day, those dates are gone. Never to be seen again. It's just getting too ridiculous. So people. please. When you say love. Try to mean it. Try to really think about it before you actually say something. Don't let those first few months of happiness fool you into believing that you two are in love. Wait till it gets hard and you guys are there for each other. Just wait before saying something. Because honestly, the ones that don't, in my opinion are just plain stupid. That's the plain and honest truth.
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I think that it is pretty sad when someone decides to sort of push his/her friends aside for a new relationship with a significant other. But, I also understand why it happens. In a relationship, there is always that initial sense of excitement. I guess that also spurs the quickness of professing love with someone.
On a slightly different note, I think that love at first sight is bullshit. Lust at first sight, maybe, but how could one love someone with just one sighting?
Anyway, I agree with what you are saying about putting up the dates. Honestly, if the relationship is strong and stable and the two people in it really do have a lot of affection for each other, there is no need to post up a date for everyone to see. What is the point, really? To show off? Maybe they are scared that they would forget the date on which the relationship was made official (okay, no)?
I can understand why one does that too, and I'm fine with it. To a certain point. I don't get angry or anything, it just irks me when its something important. If it was a casual outing and the friend opts to hangout with her boyfriend, by all means. I don't mind. But I don't like it when her boyfriend becomes the ONE and ONLY thing to her. I've seen it in a lot of people and it just makes me question their priorities. I can understand, but only so much. I suppose its because my views are different and I like to maintain some kind of independence, but so much dependence on one person is really unhealthy.
But moving on, I totally agree with the lust at first sight. I love KDramas, but its full of bs. lol. Never going to happen. It sometimes can be mistaken for obsession too. So yea =/
And the posting up of the date is really just a proclamation of their "love" for one another. I'm cool if its to show that thats when they got together, but its irritates me when its gone within a month. or two. Because it's kind of stupid. If they dated long enough, they would have known whether or not they liked each other enough to last longer than that, do you get what I'm saying? I just think that when one dates, one should date as long as possible and get to know that person before officially hooking up with them. That's just my personal belief. I've seen a lot of relationships go REALLY bad because they realize just how much they dislike each other after that brief bliss period is gone.
I think that people generally take their friendships for granted and appear to concentrate too much on relationships with a boyfriend/girlfriend because they assume that their friends will automatically understand and will always be there for them. It is true that their friends may understand, but that does not mean that they would not feel hurt at all when the friendship does not feel the same anymore, or when they are pushed to the side.
And yeah, I absolutely agree with what you are saying.
Yea, it sucks. I can put myself in their shoes and understand, but I can only do so much. Once again, it just comes down to different views. It's just a little too unhealthy to be so clingy in a relationship. That's just my opinion. It's better to branch out,.. meaning to maintain balance between friends, boyfriend, and family. It's not that hard.. at least not in my opinion. I dunno.
Thanks for your comment though. =) It really makes my day to see that people actually do read my blog. lol.
Well, honestly, I find your blogs interesting to read, haha. They are definitely far more thought-provoking than entries that just depict how one's day went (okay, this is a bit hypocritical since that is what I use my blog(s) for). Plus, it is refreshing to see someone using correct grammar and spelling and such. :)
Lol. I'm a bit of a blog whore. Lol. This is probably my fourth one. Two are used for my own personal journals. And the other two are updates of my oh-so boring life. I tend not to update those anymore because I really have nothing going on unfortunately, lol. Finally, this is my last and latest one. =) I was worried, I wouldn't get any comments, but yea, once again. Thanks!! x)
go!! playing with karma
much love,
"i see hope for two friends"
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