Flawed Perfection

Living in a world that admires perfection is hard, because as humans we are naturally flawed. Flawed in many ways, whether it be physical or mental. So what does a person do when all their flaws are put in front of them? How are they supposed to alter themselves to fit this idea of perfection so as to not irritate those they care about? If anything, one should change themselves for themself, to become a better person. Unfortunately, what if you happen to like yourself the way you are, but people around you do not. Should you change yourself for them? The question is how much of yourself are you willing to change? As humans, we continue to look for flaws, no matter how miniscule and tiny it may be, old ones may fade away, but someone will always point out other new flaws. This inevitably leads to a slippery slope, because you would never be able to achieve this goal of perfection because no one person is perfect. Yet knowing this fact does not prevent journalists from capping the unfortunate performance of Britney Spears and her "weight", nor does it prevent people from scrutinizing others by what they wear or how they look.

I now question if my path and perspective in life is the correct way. This path is what leads my pessimism. My constant look towards negativity in whatever situation I am in. My sarcasm and humor that causes pain to others so as I can deflect and shield myself from pain; a way to mislead people away from my true insecurities. Maybe, to become a better person like Chopz (my best friend) pointed out, is to have a more optimistic view on life. Instead of judging a person immediately by their flaws, why not point out their merits and their strengths. What makes them a good person, as oppose to what makes them so "bad". We as a society are so focused on the negativity that we take advantage of the good things in life that we have that many others barely even get to experience in a lifetime.

So my question for you people who are reading this is:
" If all the flaws that you had were laid out in front of you, would you be willing to change it? What flaws do you have now that you wish you could change? "

Not a really great blog.. since this is my first in a long time... but I'll have another one for tomorrow..

Are we settling for love?

We all have a basic idea of what we want in a relationship, a vision of how our significant other would be and how happy we would make one another. Unfortunately, not everyone's ideal relationship can be handed to them. So we ultimately settle for what we can get. Those who don't settle may end up alone and never achieving that happiness they once dreamt of. Someone close to me is settling and I'm not sure as to whether I support their relationship or not. Their care for each other is obvious, but whether they're with each other because they're madly in love is less. But should they opt out of their relationship and join the rest of the nation who make up a large percentage of adults marrying older now than ever before or should they.. just settle?

What continually makes me worried is what do you do when you're never able to find that "perfect" person. I'm only eighteen, but I mean, the crushes I have developed have been less than stable, functional, or normal. With the internet, younger generations such as myself should have a bigger advantage of finding our "perfect" person. Yet, somehow, it seems to have become more difficult for us to maintain a stable relationship and/or marriage. Statstics that state that 50% of marriages end up divorces is just ludicrous. Which makes me hate the word "love" even more than ever before. Our inability to want more and to not realize what we have blinds us from the happiness that is actually in front of us. So is settling the only answer? Are we destined to just be with the "less than perfect" person and live out our lives? Times like this makes arranged marriages seem perfect, because the concept of one learning to love each other seems to work moreso, than our western philosophy of dating and meeting. I'm not turning primeval or anything, but here's my question for you think:

"How do you achieve that normal, FUNCTIONAL, happy relationship?"

Short entry today.. it's been ages since I've written in here, but I thought I should soon. And it's been bothering me a little bit too. So there we go.. I still have my Purposes of Life series to finish, so more to come on that.